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Bellevue, WA

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My name is Zan. I have a job and a car and a house and so on. Typical stuff. I live alone with some cats. I play in rock bands periodically/usually. It’s been said that my ”acerbic wit is a delight.” I realize that I’m a Seattle area stereotype; a moody, sensitive type with cats and guitars. So, sorry for being such a cliché.I like driving at night around remote parts of Washington in the rain listening to ominous music and pretending I am being followed or embroiled in some sort of mystery. I like road trips that involve Mad-Libs and forcing my passenger to read me Trivial Pursuit cards. I like talking. I like going to the beach (though I prefer grey PNW beaches), going out to dinner, going to shows, movies, the symphony, the ballet, etc. I also go to musicals frequently. Standing game nights every other weekend with my best friends. I am pretty close with my family too and have a standing dinner date with some of them every Sunday.Also, I have traveled somewhat extensively to various places around the world (Europe, North Africa, Asia, Central America)— some people aggressively care that you have traveled a lot, I have noticed. However, I do not typically take photos of myself when traveling (or ever) for whatever reason, it just doesn’t occur to me as a thing to do.

You are an *uptight, overly-complicated person who hates to laugh.Or, you are a *neurotic, irrational person who loves to cry.(i.e., not a self-proclaimed ”laid back, down-to-earth person who loves to laugh.”)So, in all honesty, we have all had our hearts broken a few times. I am not a perfect person, I have made mistakes and will continue to. I like to think I’ve worked on myself and my issues a lot, and I am in a place where have made a pretty good life for myself, but really would like to share it with someone. I think I have realistic wants in a partner: someone kind, accepting, patient, smart, attractive, etc. – same thing everyone else wants. Really don’t have a specific type of person in mind anymore, more of a specific type of relationship I am looking for. Meh, IDK. I want to build a future, support and challenge somebody, be supported and challenged in return. I am a pretty decent guy I think.Also, these days I find dating to be exhausting and demoralizing. I still make the effort. But, I am at a point where I would really like to only date one person who gets me and who I get back. The times I have had something like that were really rewarding emotionally, and sometimes I miss it.There are maybe 7 – 10 things that I think would probably be untenable for me in a partner/relationship. Probably pretty obvious ones too, I had thought, but I guess not maybe, because I have stay in some pretty terrible situations for much longer than anyone should have.Also, I am done making conciliations: people who don’t like cats can get fucked. Same goes for repubs